Changing Your Life by Being Positive

A lot of people want to improve their lives. There are always people who don’t have the best lives and always feel like something is going wrong for them. They want to change things, but they aren’t sure how.

Well, being positive is one of the very first things you can do to change your life for the better.

Now step back and look at the reaction you just had. Was it, “Yeah, I know I should be more positive, but . . .” or something like “That’s just dumb feel-good talk”? That is how most people are going to respond to something like this. Why?

It’s because they are so stuck in a cycle of negative thinking that they can’t get out of it. They don’t know how to start thinking positively, so they want to shoot down the very idea of it. The really scary part is that many people DON’T WANT to start thinking positively.

As humans, we have a tendency to find a “comfort zone” and stay there forever. Even if that comfort zone is bad for you. A lot of people are comfortable being unhappy. They have been unhappy for a long time, so they figure there’s no point in changing now. Or they don’t know what kind of changes being positive would bring and they are afraid of change. Or they like the attention they get from people when they play the negative “poor me” card.

Well the bad news is that people don’t really like negative individuals. They may act sympathetic, but in all reality they probably wonder why you don’t just get yourself out of the bad situation. They will get tired of listening to your personal pity-parties, and it is a great way to lose friends and never make new ones. If your friends are all the same way, and all you do every time you are around each other is complain about how badly life has treated you, you will never rise above that.

If you are constantly negative, your actions are dooming you to a life of misery.

You are literally force-feeding yourself failure and depression. This has to stop before you can move forward.

When you decide that you want to improve your life, you have to figure out what is causing the problems in your life first. It is really easy to blame other people for your problems, but pointing fingers at the wrong sources won’t help you to fix anything.

You need to figure out how many of your problems you are causing. Are you hanging out with the wrong people? Are you staying in a job where you are being oppressed or abused? Are you staying in an abusive relationship? Or are you being negative, day in and day out, because life isn’t all you want it to be? These things may not be entirely your fault, but if you are encouraging them, even by sticking around, you are partially to blame.

Being negative and being around negative people will keep you from ever getting what you want. It may seem cheesy at first, but you need to start smiling even when you don’t really feel like it. You need to start letting the little things slide, instead of obsessing over them. Be a little nicer to people, even if you don’t feel like they deserve it.

Most of all, stop thinking and talking about all the bad things in your life. By not letting the bad things control your conversations and thought processes, you are keeping them from running your life. Focus on the good things, and more will begin to show up.

This may sound silly to some, but it’s been proven that this works. People who think positively have better, happier lives, are sick less, have more friends, and have longer-lasting relationships.

Even if you are still skeptical, ask yourself what you have to lose by trying it out for a couple months. The crummy depressed life that you’ve been living? Now, what do you have to gain? The world . . .